Thank you so much for your overwhelming response and for all of the questions that I received about what you are most struggling with right now.
Your questions were amazing and I am excited to be able to answer them. So many of us are suffering silently and feel like we are alone, and I want you to know that you are not alone.
Today I will start with one beautiful reader whom I will call Sorceress X who wrote:
“I feel stuck.. I have buried myself in tasks, board positions, lives, etc…that I feel like to run away from it now seems irresponsible.”
I hear this kind of sentiment all of the time in my office. These feelings of stuckness, being buried with life, and not being able to escape it permeates the lives of so many of us.
What’s unique about my life is that I get to talk to many, many folk every day about their struggles. What I’ve learned is that we are all so similar. I have also learned that the American Dream is a punk ass myth. Being married, with 2.5 kids, and the white picket fence just ain’t cutting it for most us these days.
So many of us are suffering on some level with the roles that we play in our daily lives.
We are all under extreme pressure to perform, to have excessive amounts of cash, to have our children in the best schools and extracurricular activities, to have a “happy” marriage, to LOVE parenthood, to have an awesome career, stay organized, volunteer at the kid’s school, and still have a warm, home-cooked dinner on the table every night.
It’s insanity. In reality we are ALL struggling and nobody is pulling it all off the way that we want too. Most of us on some level feel like we are failing or are about to fail someone, especially if we make the changes that we need to make in order to be more at peace with our lives and with ourselves.
The only way out of this misery is to start making some serious choices.
When you begin to take radical responsibility for the conditions of your life, and you start making the changes that your heart is begging you to make, you open the doorway to real authentic happiness.
These changes that your heart wants may sound crazy, ridiculous, or even impractical.
The fear inside of you may tell you that you don’t have the time or the money to make these changes.
The fear inside of you will tell you that you should feel guilty about wanting more out of your life.
The fear inside of you may tell you that you will let other people down or that you are selfish or lazy for wanting things to be different.
Sorceress X, It is imperative that you stop giving attention to these fears. They are lies. Complete bullshit. They come from the part of your mind that resists change. This part of your mind is like a 2 year old having a tantrum, because her mommy is telling her to eat her broccoli. This part of your mind doesn’t have the ability to understand what’s good or bad for her.
Any kind of change is just super scary to it, and it will have tantrum after tantrum until you catch on.
Do NOT let the afraid voice be the authority of your life.
Listen to the other voice. The one that is more subtle. The voice that is trying to set you free right now.
FYI, you are bigger than your guilt. Bigger than your fear even. Don’t let it run the show. Feel guilty all you want, be petrified even, but don’t let it stop you.
I’d rather you feel a little guilty because you are FINALLY free, than keep feeling like a prisoner in your own life.
So with that, now is the perfect time of the year to take an inventory of your life and see where your energy is leaking.
Maybe it’s time to give yourself permission to walk away from the responsibilities that are making you feel stuck, that are bleeding you dry, and leaving you feeling unsupported.
Try this: Close your eyes, take a few breaths, and Imagine what your life will look like and feel like without these things on your plate. Feel how your body responds as you let each one of these things go.
Awesomeness, right? .
We only have one plate. If your whole plate is full of Doritos then you have no space left for the filet mignon. Empty your plate of the Doritos in your life, so you make room for supreme deliciousness to enter your life.
Walk away with glee, don’t look back, and trust that you and everyone involved will survive and even thrive if you give yourself this long needed break
Free yourself. Nobody else will.
And when you do, you will inspire others to do the same.
On that note, I recorded a meditation (link below) that I learned from a tree. Yes, I said a tree. It’s about letting go of your burdens so that new dreams can come into view, in the same way that trees effortlessly drop the leaves that they work so hard to grow throughout the year. Trees let go without doubting themselves or punching themselves in the head like we do. Trees are so smart.
GET Your Free Meditation Here: Let Go of Your Burdens Meditation
May we all learn how to effortlessly let go of outgrown responsibilities, roles, and people so that we can grow, create, and feel radiant in 2015!
Would love to hear your comments below!
Keep the questions coming!
Hope the season is treating you right and give yourself permission to slow down if you need to please 🙂
Love and good juju to you all!
