Finding your creative side is one of the toughest things you might have to do in life because you have to commit to the act. But with the help of the divine, through which anything is possible, finding your creative side might just be the best thing you do for yourself. Amber Kuileimailani Bonnici is the Founder of Woman Unleashed. She joins Corin Grillo to talk about finding your creative side by reaching into the divine part of you. Everyone is touched by that divinity, but few truly listen and heed its call. With Amber and Corin’s help, you can tap into those energies in order to truly unleash the creativity you have building inside of you.
—
Listen to the podcast here:
Amber Kuileimailani Bonnici: Finding Your Creative Side Through The Divine
There’s an epidemic going on out there and it looks a little like The Walking Dead. What I mean by that is people that are walking around that feel a total lack of aliveness, creativity and joy. I have a special guest. She’s a fun lady. Her name is Amber Bonnici. She is the Founder of Woman Unleashed, a community dedicated to helping women bring creativity and spirituality into their lives to align with their sacred purpose, make cash, and become impactful believers in the world. She supports women through retreats and online coaching programs. She hosts the Woman Unleashed Online Retreat which has drawn over 70,000 women since it first began.
When she’s not teaching or coaching, you’ll find her on the big island of Hawaii painting, writing, and hanging with her husband and boys. The cool thing about Amber is she has a cool story. She was one of the walking dead. She talks a lot about her story in our episode. I want to bring you content that’s going to help you wake up, feel better, be happier and be more engaged with spirit, your life, and with others. The way that Amber works her creativity process is special. My sense is some people need this work and they don’t even know it. This is why I am hosting her and also she’s awesome. I’ve been one of her guests for several years in a row for the Woman Unleashed Summit. It’s always fun. She’s out of the box. I hope you dig this episode and meet my friend, Amber.
—
Amber, I’m excited to talk to you because so much of the work that you do is creative. I’ve noticed for me that it’s creative in one way but not crafty or artsy. It’s beautiful, the work that you’re doing. You’re doing this creative diva and helping people get there. I’m curious about your process and how that happened. How did you become this creative awesomeness that you are, the goddess that you are?
Let me tell you a story. My creative process was similar to what a lot of us have experienced before in the past. When I was a kid, I loved to create. Give me some crayons or whatever and I’ll draw. I used to draw little ponies and write stories. As kids, most of us do that. I remember being in school. I was in second grade. Maybe I was 8, 9, or 10 years old or something like that. My teacher told me that you couldn’t make any money as a writer or an artist. I thought, “I should do something like be a doctor or do something that makes money” Do you remember that board game, Life? If you’re a doctor or a lawyer, you’ve made lots of money. I got the impression that my work wasn’t good enough. I started looking at everybody else’s art around that age. I’m like, “My stuff doesn’t quite look theirs.” I set aside that creative side of myself for a long time and I did band instead. I was a band person.
Me too. I was not only a band person, but I became the drum major. What were you doing?
I played the French horn.
Me too. This is crazy. I have never met another French horn player since high school.
I did band and enjoyed it, but there was this part of me that thought that I’d miss my creativity. There have been all these studies that show that kids when they’re in second grade which is 7 or 8 years old, 95% of them believe they’re creative. They’re like, “We’re creative,” By the time they’re in fifth grade, which is 10 or 11 years old, only 50% still believe that. By the time they’re in high school, only 5% of kids still believe they’re creative. We’re born creative. It’s coming back home to yourself is what we’re doing. It’s unlearning what we’ve learned about creativity is what I call people into. I came to that process because like anything that’s birth, that’s amazing. It came from utter suffering.
I remember I had miscarried a baby and right after that, I got pregnant. I had my son and I was in postpartum depression. I was like, “There has to be more to life than this.” I was in such a low place and everything was gray. The only reason I got up was to feed my kid, change the diapers, and do what I’m supposed to do. I remember praying to God and being like, “I need something.” The next day in my inbox popped an email. It was talking about a writing and painting mentorship program. I remembered when I was younger how I used to draw my little ponies and write stories of mysteries. There was something that sparked. There were some little lights. I hadn’t felt that in a while. It was hard to sign up for it because I had the whole guilt thing, “I can’t spend money on me.” If you’re a woman, you know what that one’s like.
I was living and breathing everything you’re talking about right there. I had no sovereignty and no sense of self.
I got to that desperate point. That desperate point is what allowed me to be like, “No, I’m spending this on me,” because what was the alternative? I was so depressed. I had moments where I thought when I was feeding my baby, he’s crying. I thought about, “What would happen if I put him under the water?” As mothers, a lot of us had those thoughts but we don’t share it because it’s so taboo.
[bctt tweet=”Postpartum depression is such a scary experience.” username=””]It’s so awesome that you’re sharing that out loud. I remember the first time I was pregnant. The shit that you get is like, “How wonderful. What an exciting passage.” Everyone’s excited so you think it’s going to be awesome. I had postpartum depression with my first baby too and it was scary. I was already rocking some depression in my life, but I’ve never seen myself anxious and depressed. I mostly wanted to die before but after this, I was a panic wreck and depressed at the same time. I’m glad you’re saying that because there could be moms now going like, “Oh my god,” because it can be so dark.
I gave myself permission because being at that bottom place, I felt that I had to do something different. What I was doing wasn’t working. I started painting. I didn’t know what I was doing. I never painted before since I was in second grade. I was like, “I’ll do this and I’ll write stories.” I’d get up early in the morning and I’d write before the kids got up and do the mom thing. I called it sacred naptime when they were asleep. That’s when I was able to get stuff done. That became my creative time. That was the time that I came back home to myself. That was the time when I got my energy, vitality, and my radiance back. Once I started that, I felt more inspired to start going for morning walks, reading books, and listening to positive things. It was that one step start that opened something for me. Before that, my eyes were closed, they’re barely open and it felt like I could barely see. Once that happened, I could see more possibilities and it felt like there’s life again. I started looking forward to it again.
What you’re describing, it was different that would happen to you. When I discovered the angels and had that big miracle happen, I was set on this journey like you’re talking about, and it was when I was still hyper and only thinking about my kid, my baby, and still didn’t do one thing for myself. It had been years since I did that and she was four at that stage. I was also working in a county mental health clinic because my marriage was on the brink of divorce. I’d had to thrust myself back into work when I was already not well, trying to rescue kids off the street, and I had a kid at home.
For me, the entry point was the spirituality. All of a sudden, this new thing is stirring. It’s important for all of us to notice those moments when it’s a sweet stir. For you, Amber, it didn’t seem like a big lightning bolt moment. It was like, “It sounds like fun and juicy.” Little did you know you were about to open up something that was going to sustain a whole different part of you. Can you tell us more about when you took the class? When did you start knowing there was something there for you?
I love what you said about how it was this gentle thing. It wasn’t like the joke I say, “It wasn’t like the angel was singing,” as they did in Ukraine.
I’m dramatic. I was dumb back then. They would not have gotten my attention at all. I was too drunk. They needed a big miracle to sober me up a little bit.
For me, it doesn’t work that way. Although I wish that I had, “Here’s what to do.” Sometimes I wish I had the marching orders. For me, it’s always been this slow and gentle guidance to the next thing. When I first started creating, it awakened something in me. It built up this fire within me that was amazing and felt good. Once I started focusing on myself, my energy built more and more. I felt at one point this calling of, “Other people could use this.” That didn’t happen right away. At first, it was all about my own survival, nurturing, and taking care of myself, but there was a point where I felt that there are other women who feel this way who could use this.
That’s when I started moving more into what I’m doing now. From the end of the hour, I had a little gathering at my house with some girlfriends. I shared a little bit about painting and I end up having a coming in ceremonies is what I call it where I came out to all my good friends, the ones that loved me, not the ones that were going to judge me. It’s the ones that no matter what I did, they would be like, “You’re amazing.” I had a little party and I’m like, “I’m an artist and a poet.” No one knew this and they’re like, “Oh my gosh.”
That is fascinating that you felt you had to come out of the closet. I had to come out of the closet to my friends too. I had an angel shame. I had to be like, “I believe in angels.” I would never think that you would have to feel that way about that for an artist and a poet. It’s so esteemed and classy.
There was something about this like, who am I? It’s like, “I can do it,” but in my mind, “You weren’t an artist unless maybe you were paid or you weren’t a poet unless you were published.” Wherever my story went, it’s like, “That’s not true.” There are plenty of poets that are putting their stuff out there or that are creating art. It comes to that piece of identity and money. It’s this interesting thing that we do in our society around that. It’s weird. It’s like, “You’re not that unless you’re making money out of it.”
It’s so true. It’s important to articulate this process that you’re talking about here because some people can miss the moment. Some people can miss that sweet and gentle stirring inside that is asking you to do more or create. It’s going into these impractical places with our lives. It sounds like your life was practical before this, “Feed a baby, keep the baby alive and all the money I spend has got to support the family.” It’s all of that. I remember crying the first time that I was going to spend money on myself on spirituality things like learning more because I literally felt I was taking food out of the mouth of my babe. It’s beautiful what you’re sharing in your process and how things opened up for you because you listened.
Part of it too was because the creative process opened me to listen. I believe that all creativity is co-creativity. You are creating with spirit. Its divine communion is what creativity is. When I was in that space, I was practicing being open. Every time I picked up the paintbrush, there was an opening. Sometimes my paintings would talk to me, “You need to chill out,” or whatever their messages were for me. I started painting all these friends, and the ways God would speak to me in different ways. It opened something up for me. It built my confidence, joy and happiness. Many of us don’t do things because they make us happy.
I talked to people and they’re like, “I would create or do my daily practice with spirit or whatever your thing is, but I’ve got dishes to do or things to get done.” They’re unhappy and I’m like, “Would it be worth it for you to create the art even though you’re not selling it or doing whatever you’re doing to be happy? Is it worth it to make you happy?” We did a Frida Kahlo girls’ night-in painting. We do these Creativity Girls night-in thing. We made Frida Kahlo unibrows. They’re so funny. It’s redonkulous. It made me happy and we were laughing so hard. It’s looking at what your happiness is worth. It’s worth it for you to create even if you’re drawing scribbles. If that makes you feel happy, perfect. Let’s have more of that stuff and the full permission to be happy so you don’t snap at your kids, you can be a little bit more receptive to your partner, and for your friends. They don’t hear you bitching all the time. There are many benefits to doing what’s fun.
Finding Your Creative Side: Some people can miss that sweet, gentle stirring inside that is really asking them to do create more.
There are many levels of that. I noticed especially in my private practice, especially when I was doing a lot of marriage and family therapy because I would work with a lot of pregnant women or women with young kids, that even the notion of what fun is, they’re out of contact with that. If I say, “What do you do for fun?” There are a lot of blank stares. “I don’t even know what I like anymore.” How do you perceive people re-encountering fun if creativity or even painting doesn’t sound fun to them? What things do you recommend?
What you get to do is go and experiment. You get to be experimenting and be like, “I don’t know what’s funny more, so let’s try some stuff.” Let’s try some weird things and see what comes up. Here in Hawaii when we pick plants and we make leis, we look for the flowers that sparkle a little bit or the ones that shimmer a little bit. They’re the ones saying, “Pick me,” to go in your lei. When you’re looking at what’s fun, you’re looking for the same type of thing. You might look at a million different things. You can read a book, garden, paint, cook or do whatever and go through it. If there’s anything else that’s a little bit of an “ah,” try it as an experiment. Not like, “This is the thing. This is the one.” There is no one. This is not the Matrix. We can have lots of things but let yourself be in experimentation of it. It takes off the pressure. The thing with creativity is there are a few creativity killers. One of them is judgment and seriousness of, “This has to be this way.” That perfectionism kiboshes creativity and fun. If you let that off and you let yourself be imperfect like, “Let’s try and see what happens.” You won’t have this huge expectation that it needs to meet up to, just try some stuff.
Experiment, I love that. I have been trying to do some collage. For me to do something for creative’s sake and not have a purpose behind it. It’s not even a vision board. I’m just collaging is the thing. It’s taken me a while, but so far it’s been cracking me up. I thought it was going to come out soulful and spiritual. One of my pieces is a giant spider with a 1950s woman head as the spider. It’s bad. The one below it is a buffalo head. It’s a little boy with a buffalo head in a wheelbarrow. It’s deranged.
I don’t think so. As long as you feel better, it’s not deranged. You’re fine. I’m not psychoanalyzing you in your collage.
I am and I can’t help it because of who I am and what I do. The thing is because I spend so much time in the uplifting and angel world, it’s a great way for me to go a little peculiar, odd and dark. It feels good.
That’s what I love about creativity. There are no rules. I double-dog dare you to go to Google and look up weird art installations. Any story you have in your head about, “I’m not an artist,” you’ll be like, “I could do better than that.” There’s the Rothko painting that sells for $80 million that is a square of paint on a canvas. You’ve got installation art of toilet bowls, doughnut holes on a wall, half-eaten peanut butter sandwiches on a wall, or toilet paper rolls.
I would like to do a toilet paper installation because I have no toilet paper trauma. I have a thing with toilet paper now so that’s a great idea. That will be my next piece. I’ll try and collage with it. I love what you’re saying and the feeling I’m getting here is it’s about breaking the rules. Even the art that we value millions of dollars is lawlessness. I love that about creativity and the art world. I know over the years you’ve developed your own process and working with creativity. I’m wondering if you can share some of that with us.
It’s called the Unleashed Cycle. It’s a cycle of creativity that you move through in order to move into what we call as being a woman unleashed or someone who is absolute in their freedom, in play, joy, and letting loose. There’s this cycle where everyone moves through no matter what you’re creating. Whether you’re creating spider collage heads, a symphony on a French horn, or creating a relationship with your new body or whatever. There’s always the same pathway that you walk. Anytime you create, you manifest something. The thing is most of us are strong in a couple of parts of the creative cycle, but other parts we get stuck and we don’t know why we’re getting stuck. That’s the part of the cycle where you need to learn that sequence and that part of it in order to keep creating and move through.
There are four main parts. The first one is about energy, which is interesting because we spoke about that when I first started at the beginning of how I had no energy. I had to build my energy up in order to create. That was that piece about energy. Energy can also be thinking about energy in if you’re fueling yourself up. I see this a lot with women business owners that are burnt out and they can’t connect to their creativity because their energy is gone out to serve everyone else. They don’t have any energy for themselves anymore to be creating. It’s that energy thing. It can be physical energy like being tired when I was a new mama. It could also be mental energy. Mental energy is all those conversations that drain your energy in your head like, “Who am I to do this? I’m not good enough.” That critical voice and that worrying voice. All that imagining is sucking the energy right out of you. You need energy in order to do the cycle.
If you’re stuck here, it looks like either scattered energy. You can’t make a decision. I talked to a lot of people who are like, “I don’t know what to do. There are many different ideas,” so no one starts. Your energy is scattered everywhere. You’ve got to pull it in or it can also look like you’re tired. Those are the main ways that it shows up. We work with different archetypes and energy patterns. This archetype is that of the mother, self-compassion, and nurturing. A visionary of taking, feeding, and getting you fat little thing. I think about moms that nurse their babies nice and fat like, “Let’s fatten you up,” before you move on to the next phase of the cycle.
[bctt tweet=”Feel the freedom to experiment with weirder activities.” username=””]I’m a little upset because my child is finally losing her bun and I’m like, “Keep the bun.” Her chubs are getting too stretched out. It is what it is. It’s going to happen. When you say work with the mother archetype, how does that go about?
We do lots of different things, but we’ll work with energy. The whole energy is that of nurturing and filling up. It’s self-mothering. I’m not talking about mothering others because we’re all pretty good at nurturing other people and that’s part of the problem. It’s this over smothering that happens in other areas. It’s that nurturing of mothering of yourself and your energy. We look at one, what are you doing with energy coming in? Do you have energy coming in? One of the main things I recommend is a daily ritual. It could be prayer, creativity, or whatever the thing is that fills your energy up. Energy in or also energy out. We look at that too. Where are the holes that are draining? Who is draining you, what is draining you, and what environment is draining you? You can pay attention to that. This is also the space where you look at release if you have any unforgiveness or energetic stuff that’s taking up space. We do stuff around releasing.
That’s the good stuff there, especially people who are in long-term partnerships, especially the young people with young kids. It’s an important one.
If we want to create, we need a space to do that. If it’s already full, it’s hard to move on. The next step we move into is that of planning. This is the structure strategy. This is a plan for you so you know what you’re doing. When it comes to creativity, most of us think of this flow that comes in. If there’s nowhere for it to go or no structure for it to move into, it goes wherever. It’s not smooth. If we want to talk about the whole river and riverbanks. We’re creating riverbanks. I get a lot of pushback on creativeness on this piece because we all like creativity, fun, and freedom. However, without some structure, a lot of times we don’t get to the actual creating part. If you have a daily ritual practice like your actual schedule or the ingredients and the things that you have as a part of it.
If you’re working on a passion project maybe finishing a series of paintings or something. It might look like when and how you’re doing it. It’s the timeline for that. If you’re doing the business type of stuff, it’s more like strategy and what do you focus on first. It’s the planning ahead of time to do it. This archetype is the warrior. She’s a warrior for what you’re creating. She is also strong with her boundaries because if you don’t have boundaries, no matter what your plan is, you can plan for interruptions, other people, and those things as well. When you are not connected to this energy, it shows up as burnout. You work hard, you burn out. That’s the pattern. You keep going between step one and step two. You don’t keep moving through because you don’t have a plan and that’s why you’re burning out. It’s looking at creating that place where you’re constantly feeling that energy is a part of the plan. This is the quadrant of rhythm and balance. It’s not about getting stuff done. It’s about sustainability too.
It’s so important for sure.
I’ve tried it the other way and it doesn’t work. I tried all the things that I’m telling you. This one landed me in the hospital. I was going through a big push and I was going to make it happen. If anyone knows what that’s like, I’m making it happen. I almost died of pneumonia in the hospital. I was in that push and I hadn’t created space and time. I felt it. You talked about hearing ahead of time. I heard it and I knew that I needed to take care of my body but there was this override part of my brain that’s like, “No, do more. It’s not enough. You’ve got to get it done.” That part drove me out of my rhythm and into being sick.
It’s a story we all know and sometimes we’re all guilty of. It’s getting to the place of listening to that voice before something tragic happens and your body says, “We’re pulling the plug, sorry. It’s too much.” That’s intense so you’ve got your lesson for that.
I did. That was a big one for me. This is how tired I was. I was in the ER, and I overheard my mother-in-law talking to the doctor and I remember praying, “Please God, let me stay here,” because I didn’t want to think about taking care of my kids, feeding my husband or all the things at the time that I was doing plus my business. I’m like, “Can I have someone take care of me?” That’s how tired I was. I was like, “Leave me in the ER.” I stayed for a couple of days and I remember the doctor telling me I was lucky to be alive that I had driven myself to such a point. He said, “You’re lucky to be alive.” I remember on the last days my kids came to visit me.
This was a few years ago. At that time, I had IV in me, oxygen and I looked like a wreck. My kids walked in and my oldest who’s pretty stoic and holding it together, he looked at me and burst into tears. I said, “Come here.” I had him crawl on my lap and I held him while he was crying, and shaking and I thought, “What am I doing? This is not worth it.” Whatever I’m doing and creating is not okay. I remember my mother being in the hospital bed and watching her young and being like, “I am not going to do that to my kids.” That was a big turning point for me. It’s that choice to choose rhythm over getting everything done.
That’s powerful. Thanks for that. Thanks for getting the lesson, listening and sharing that with other people.
Maybe you’re like me if you’re reading, you had to get whacked over. There are more of us that are awake and reminding each other because it can be easy to get into that spiral in our heads. If we have somebody else being around other people who are telling you, “Where’s your rhythm? What are you doing for your energy?” It’s different words but being around other visionaries or other people who are like, “I will stand with you to be in balance and for you to be in rhythm,” is super powerful. I know that’s the accountability that I need because my natural tendency is overwork.
That wasn’t always my natural tendency until I became an entrepreneur. I want to create things all the time and I enjoy it but I need my brothers and sisters reminding me to stay in your body essentially. It’s not worth all that.
This can be work but it can also be taking care of other people. I see this a lot of caregivers will do the same thing. They give and give or with parents of young kids, volunteers, or activists especially who are fighting for the planet and taking it on. There’s this out.
They’re holding up the whole world in their minds so it’s a lot of energy. After this step and after you get into the rhythm?
You go from rhythm into flow. Flow is the actual creative process. This is the co-creation. It’s you and divine. You’re listening to your intuition and it’s about trust, trusting spirits and rendering. It’s also about self-trust. Some of us have burnt ourselves out in the past. We’ve made promises to ourselves and we’ve let ourselves down. This step is about surrendering and allowing something bigger to hold us. This step is also about the support which I know that you know with your angel friends. It’s looking at how you’re not alone. This is co-creation. It’s not only doing spirit but you in spirit, and everyone that spirit puts in to help your creation, and being open to receive that support. It might look like other people or asking for help from people. Being the CEO of your own home, doing your laundry, knowing where to get stuff done.
If you get stuck in this place, it can show up as the critic, being alone or isolated and being the lone wolf. It can show up as being controlling, “I’ve got to do it all myself,” or judging, “I’ve got this. I can do this.” Judging everybody else’s that are not doing good. This can also show up as burnout but not burnout from the structure, but burnout from doing all on your own from not having the support to help you out. This archetype is the mystic. We know her and love her. She’s all about connection with the divine, self-trust, flow and support.
I love that one. These are so great, Amber.
Finding Your Creative Side: Creativity is learning how you can break all the rules, and that’s how art valued at millions is made.
You’ll notice that each one builds on the other with the cycle. You can’t jump to the mystic and flow without the energy and the structure. You could create a plan but if you don’t have any energy, you’re not going to be moving. Each one builds on one another and supports one another.
Is this the last one? I can’t wait for this one. I’m on the edge of my seat. I love the building of this process.
The last one is the queen. What she holds is the focus. She’s about focusing, finishing, perseverance, follow-through, and looking at the big picture instead of the minutiae things. She’s about sovereignty and self-responsibility. The way that she shows up is if this archetype or this energy haven’t activated, you’re asking other people, “What would you do?” You’re asking permission from other people or you’re waiting for others to tell you what to do. That’s one thing. The other one is the shiny object syndrome, which is you start something, you get to a certain point, and you start something else and you never finished anything, which is super common.
I have a different term that I use with my communities, especially when I’m doing business coaching and they get to that place. I talk about the fact that when you have a project, you get super excited, it’s like your invisible wiener is erect and ready to go. We all have an invisible business wiener whether you like it or not. We have an invisible creative wiener or whatever. At some point, your invisible wiener can go flat, and that’s when people walk away because they don’t realize that sometimes it’s a part of the process. Something needs to be adjusted and that you can get that erection again, so finish it. It’s a little graphic but it reminds me of that phase.
It’s the wiener cycle.
Come on, we all have a wiener cycle going on. You have to eventually want to fertilize your project into the world or whatever it is. You can’t if you’re playing the game of every time your wiener goes flat, you move to something else. You’ll never get anything done that way.
I work with lots of different women but this is where a lot of people get stuck. It’s this focus and follow-through piece. It’s that place of giving up before the end. It’s like, “You’re right there.” It can also show up as someone wanting to do something all at once. The queen is also about the energy of prosperity. That thing of, “I could do it all at once,” is coming from an energy of lack. You don’t believe that you’re going to have time later to do the next thing like, “I have to do it all now.” That can look like I have this project to do my paintings, lead a workshop, I have stuff in the gallery, I have a book I’m writing, a website and I need to do it all now.
That’s the piece. What’s interesting about the creative cycle is once you move in and work with the queen and finish something, there’s a burst of energy and pulls you back into energy. You get energy when you finish something up and not just finish it, but the secret sauce between the two is you need to celebrate it. You can’t be like, “What’s next?” It’s to sink into that celebration like, “I am amazing. I got this done.” I did this with my husband with our 2019 taxes, “I am amazing. I finished our taxes.” It’s that sense of celebration. That is what pulls the energy. That’s what pulls into that space of the next step. That’s the cycle.
What we do in Woman Unleashed is we believe that people are strong in different quadrants here. If you imagine different quadrants, each quadrant is one of the different archetypes. You might be super strong in your energy like nurturing yourself and staying connected to spirit. You love being in the visionary space but you have trouble taking action so that’s more the warrior and the queen. Maybe you’re super hardcore, you’re a warrior and a queen, but you never take care of yourself.
I’m thinking about years ago when I used to do events with other people. Some of them are popping in my mind like partners. I had this one. We were doing this event. I forget what event it was but it was some angel chakra. It was a one-day workshop. Every time I talked to her about if she did her task, she’s like, “No. I was taking an herbal bath.” Every single time before she takes an action, she first has to take a bath, go for a moonwalk, talk to mother moon. I’m like, “I can’t function.” She wasn’t doing anything the whole time because she was too busy taking her herbal baths.
[bctt tweet=”If you keep moving on to something different, you’ll never get anything done.” username=””]The thing is we get stuck. We get stuck somewhere so the goal is to find that middle place. That’s what we call the Woman Unleashed. You’re able to access all four of the energies and archetypes. That’s when you’re your most creative and free. That’s when you feel you’re in that space of fun, play, and opening up to the next level. We followed the cycle over and over again whatever you’re cycling on and pay attention, “Where am I stuck?” “That’s right, this is the part where I get wonky. I didn’t create a plan or I didn’t set boundaries.” If you get stuck in warrior, “No wonder I’m not creating. I’m exhausted. What do I need to do to pull my energy up?” It’s a great plot and to be able to see, “Where am I at based on what I want to create?”
I feel all four of those, you articulated it well. Thanks for sharing with our peeps all of that, Amber. The work that you bring is such a gift to those walking dead folks that would like to come back to life. Spiritually, there’s this big burst of energy that wants to create. I feel that there’s a pulse happening inside of all of us like the fog is clearing and it wants to create. It’s valuable so I want to thank you for sharing with our readers your ultra-magic. If they want to go deeper with this thing with you where could they find you?
Come find us at WomanUnleashed.com. Once a week we do a creativity party. We call it Girls Night-In. That’s where we created our Frida unibrows. You can find us there at GirlsNightIn.me because you’re taking care of me.
I might have to jump in there and do some Frida action.
We did Frida but each week we do a different theme. I’ve already got people scheduled because we’re creating random stuff. We’re doing fairies and queen one time. We’ve talked about doing secret agents and wearing sunglasses, and being the Men In Black like they wore the suits. We’re having fun. You can come as a guest and we could do angels. We can make wings and we could take feathers and paste them on or do something fun. We can make halos. We could do all sorts.
We can have more than one angel night. We can make wings and a halo. By the end of the year, we could put our pieces together.
Also swords, they’re badass.
Maybe we should start with the sword. Thank you so much, Amber for being here and we’re going to have future parties. I feel it coming.
Party on. Thank you.
Important Links:
About Amber Bonnici
Amber Kuileimailani Bonnici is Founder of Woman Unleashed, a community dedicated to helping women bring creativity and spirituality into their lives to align with their sacred purpose, make money, and become impactful leaders in the world. She supports women through retreats and online coaching programs.
Amber hosts the Woman Unleashed Online Retreat which has drawn over 70,000 women since it first began. When she’s not teaching or coaching, you’ll find her on the Big Island of Hawai’i painting, writing or hanging with her husband and boys.
Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share!
Join the Golden Vine community today:
